Diabetes Symptoms Seem Small Next to Suicide Bombings

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Our son Tom was about 18-months-old when my husband Mike was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. The six months leading up to the diagnosis were a painful time, and not just because something was wrong with Mike.

Mike’s first diabetes symptoms appeared when we traveled from our home in Jerusalem to a wedding in the U.S. in the fall of 2001. It was shortly after 9/11 and the world had become a scarier place. Before 9/11 travel to the U.S. for us had meant an escape from the violence in Israel, which was unfathomably gruesome in that period. Suicide bombings were a regular occurrence – not in far away places, but just a mile down the street. Post 9/11 the U.S. didn’t seem safe either.

Traveling from Israel to a wedding in Atlanta, although we had U.S. passports, was nothing short of hell. We were a young couple with a baby being treated like potential terrorists by airport security because our tickets had been issued in the Middle East.  The only respite came on one of our internal U.S. flights when, as I walked down the aisle carrying baby Tom, one of the passengers began to applaud. Then others joined in. I suppose they thought anyone brave (or stupid) enough to travel with a baby in the world after 9/11 was heroic. I didn’t feel heroic at all.  But after we returned home a sense of something akin to that (or akin to stupid) started to set in.

The suicide bombings continued. Everything around us was blowing up. Sometimes we heard the explosions.  Leaving home felt like a game of Russian roulette. I was a young mother alone with my baby all day while Mike went to work in a city over an hour away. All I wanted to do was stay home with my baby and keep him safe. I didn’t admit that to anyone.  I was trying to be as brave as the people around me. Every day as Mike got ready to catch his 6:30 a.m. ride to work he would ask me if I could go to the store and buy something he was craving. Orange juice had become one of his favorites.

Drinking Orange Juice - Diabetes Symptoms When Mike drank orange juice, he didn’t just have a glass. I kid you not – he could down a gallon bottle in one sitting. “Can you pick up some more juice today?” he’d ask, shaking the bottle over his glass to make sure he got every single drop. The bottles were heavy, and the trip to the store scared the shit out of me.  Whenever a bus passed by me I held my breath and prayed that it wouldn’t explode. If I saw a person with a big backpack, I moved as far away as I could. Never has a person wished for x-ray vision more than I did in those days.

I was a dutiful wife. I kept the juice in the fridge. I repeatedly asked our neighbor to come over and help me switch the jugs on the water cooler because I had a hard time lifting them myself. I made sure there was plenty of water ready for Mike when he came home from work. The juice wasn’t enough. I had never seen anyone so thirsty. Diabetes? That’s what I thought to myself. But Mike insisted he felt fine. He was going to work and exercising. Given those facts and how little I knew about diabetes, I didn’t fight with him about going to the doctor. Over the months I would bring it up a number of times. “You should go get a blood test,” I’d say. “But I’m fine,” Mike would answer. None of us was fine, though. During the six months of Mike’s diabetes symptoms there were 30 suicide bombings in Israel. Eleven were in Jerusalem.

Carnage.

The news was covered in pictures too horrifying to describe – really, I can’t put words to them.  With all that was going on around us, Mike’s need to urinate frequently didn’t seem like such a big deal. His hourly trips to the bathroom all through the night, however, followed by guzzling a liter of water, woke me. I couldn’t really ignore them. I also woke up several times a night to nurse Tom. And sometimes the terror, the pain and suffering around me, the sense that evil owned the world, got to me in such a way that I couldn’t sleep at all.

There were real battles before Mike was diagnosed. They were so close I could hear the gunfire as I lay in bed. I wanted to plug my ears, but I needed to be alert to my baby’s cries. Sometimes I blame myself for not being more alert to Mike’s diabetes symptoms. He could have easily died. That he didn’t is nothing short of miraculous. But at the time I was worried about deaths by guns and bombs, not diabetic ketoacidosis.  Mike lost weight.  He grew weaker.  He stopped feeling his toes.  His vision blurred.  It took an almost total body shut-down for him to realize he wasn’t fine.  I should have forced him to see that he wasn’t. 

Mike is celebrating the 10-year anniversary of his diagnosis. I am happy for him and proud of how far he’s come since then. But when I think back to that time in our lives my eyes fill with tears.  I remember clinging to my baby, helpless and terrified, while everything around me fell apart, including the man I loved.

 

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Comments (8)

  1. Sysy at

    Jessica.  This post moved me so much… I’ve dealt with anxiety since my kids were born and have felt so much terror at times at things that aren’t even real and to read about you having to deal with such a real fear while raising a young child and noticing your husband getting sick…just really puts things into perspective for me.  Here in the US we forget all too easily that people are dealing with things such as bombings.  It’s something I can’t even fathom.  It makes my worries feel so small. It makes me feel really lucky that I fear the little things that I do instead of something like what you’ve experienced.  I can totally see how Mike’s symptoms would seem small compared to what was going on in your environment.  Thank goodness he is ok.  Really touching post.  Thank you.

  2. Jess at

    Thank you for your comment, Sysy.  I can relate very much to your anxieties over small things.  I’m not exclusive with my anxiety :).  

  3. Jennifer at

    Wow. Very moving post. I’m so glad those days are behind you.

  4. Liah at

    I love it when people share thier stories (esp. thier “D” story) . It helps to put things into perspective.

  5. I just recently read David Grossman’s novel, To the End of the Land, which helped me understand what it’s like to live in Israel.  Your story — the intersection of new motherhood, Mike’s strange symptoms, and the rash of suicide bombings — also conveys in a concrete way what seems an abstraction to me. The personal against the backdrop of the political, and the seeming disconnect between them, really is genuinely moving, as other readers express. I have a suggestion: I would like to see an even longer essay on this, perhaps to be published here, or perhaps in a newspaper or news magazine.
     

  6. Jess at

    Thanks you!
     

  7. michelle s at

    Jess, you have such a gift.  You convey so much in such a short essay.  I will think about this lots over the next few days.  Thanks for sharing.  I loved Mike’s ten year anniversary piece too. 

  8. Kate Redmond at

    Dear Jessica, I’ve been haunted by this since you posted it.  I’m touched by your comment about trying to be as brave as the people around you.  Managing day to day in survival mode, trying to create your own sweet safe world for your baby, either one of those things is more than enough.  Being alert to a slowly developing condition requires a little more peace, a little less daily fear for your life.  But you were alert to it.  You did suggest blood tests.  A blood test must have seemed like a luxury of more easy times and it’s no surprise that Mike’s condition had to get dire before he got himself diagnosed.  Thank you for sharing this.  Warmest thoughts for you and your family!
    Kate

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